P is for Power


We as women are such beautiful creatures. We have this inherent and incredible strength that can move mountains. Our backs bare the weight of heavy burdens with grace and our hearts endure distress and disappointment with dignity and still, love.

But, there may be times when it becomes difficult to see the beauty in our pains. We may feel overwhelmed by life and lose sight of the power that stands within our spirit. Women of valor, there is power inherent in us right now, at this very moment. We just need to have the courage to operate in it.

Throughout my life, there have been moments where I gave up my power. I was insecure, introverted, emotional and unsure of myself. The thoughts that I would allow to roam free in my mind made me a victim to self. I was afraid that if Continue reading

“Afta’ While, I fell Head-Over-Heals With Myself” – #TBT: Re-Post


I needed a reminder to remain confident in my love … 

How does one see the beauty within when it is covered in filth? Covered in the dirt and grime of self-imposed doubts and lies inhaled at the mercy of low-self-esteem; suffocating the true beauty lying within. I’ll tell you how. One-day-at-a-time!

Grateful that I am not where I was, I still know that more work needs to be done. But, I.Am.Hopeful. I am confident in the growth taking place and excited for what my future holds. I am falling head-over-heals in love with ME – and oh what a feeling it is!

But I can see her. I see the insecure beauty hiding in women across the world. I see her potential being held down by hands of deceit and mendacity choking the life out of her existence. Years of accepting untruths have caused her to remain stuck. Wedged in-between a gap of “I’m not worthy” and “there has to be more”! She wants to fix what’s in the full length mirror, but…

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#30Layers30Days – Day 21: “Rewards”


What do you do when you are in need of attention or acknowledgement from someone outside of yourself?  Yes, we all know that we need to look within, but we’re human and sometimes we want attention.  Sometimes we get a little needy.  So what do you do?

If you didn’t already know, then I’m here to tell you. Falling in love with yourself does something to you. It’s like a light bulb goes off within the gutt of your soul, reminding you that you are worthy of experiencing all the finer things in life. You are assured of your value. Increasingly content with you story. Proud of your struggle.

I admit, I am prone to ignoring my innate desire for more; more time, more attention, more affirmation, more affection, more energy, more love… Continue reading

Open Letter to my Queen In The Shadows Family

Hello Family – I know, I know!! It’s been waaaay too long since you’ve heard from me. I pray that you can forgive me for my abrupt and unexplained disappearance. I admittingly allowed one of my favorite past-times (writing) to slip my the wayside. I guess I was going through a little bit of a “Quater-life crisis”.

Soul-searching/I need a break/I don’t have time/they won’t miss me anyway/am I a good writer/should I even have a blog/but I love writing type a’ roller coaster of thoughts and emotions.

The truth of the matter is, I think I really needed these past few weeks of separation so that I could fully come to appreciate my writing. I know in my heart that I love to write and Queen in the Shadows is my platform and opportunity to share my words with the world, while possibly helping others in the process.

And so – here I am – again 🙂  Ready to seize every opportunity to do what I love. Whether I have an intimate audience of readers or a stadium sized arena, as long as I’m practicing my gift – that all that really matters to me.

I’ve missed you all so much and look forward to interacting with you all again soon!

Until next time 🙂


– Sonia

#LeadingLadyProject-Week 5: Courage, Confidence & Comfort Zone


So, we are on the last week of the #LeadingLadyProject. I pray that all of you who may have participated had a positive experience and you are one step closer to embodying the role of Leading Lady in your lives.

This week’s focus is on The Three C’s: Courage, Confidence and Comfort Zone. These are three areas that I believe a leading lady must learn to make her own in order to conquer anything that may come her way with grace and humility. Continue reading