My Summer of Self-Discovery

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I am so grateful for growth and maturity. I am grateful for the light that flickers within my soul, reminding me that I have purpose.

Throughout my life, I’ve had this ongoing fear of judgment, ridicule and even success. Yes, there have been times where I’ve feared my own potential. I constantly question my abilities and compare them to others, which ultimately prevents me from fully taking advantage of the life that circulates through my veins. Have any of you ever felt this way? Felt fear of letting go and surrendering your heart to the possibilities that live in the unknown?

Over the past few months, I’ve existed in this ongoing stupor. Deep down, I felt stuck. Merely existing in this grand world and not truly living. I was idly present in this perpetual cycle of fear and doubt and wanting to be a more courageous person, but oblivious to the steps I needed to take in order to move towards purposeMY purpose!

Until recently, I’ve never really been able to grasp and process it all. My desires, my shame, my anger, my fears, my subconscious habits, they all just existed in this Continue reading

my truth

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my truth is relevant.

my truth is beautiful.

my truth may come with some pain.

but my truth spoken is healing.

my truth is acceptance.

my truth is authentic.

my truth is attacked by lies.

but my truth, still, chooses life.

my truth dances beneath blue skies and white clouds of hope; it soars.

my truth paints with vivid colors of emotion; it brightens my story.

my truth is quiet.

my truth roars…

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Signed “Courageous Self”

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Dear Self – Just in case you forgot again, I just wanted to remind you that You Are Beautiful!

There will always be doubters, and nay-sayers… Who cares! Stop hiding who you are to please the world. Some may think you’re selfish. Few may misinterpret your introverted nature as having a “better than” spirit. Others may even know of your past pains and only see damaged goods. But through it all, you know your truth, you accept it & that’s all that matters.

Know that there is beauty in your growing! Beauty in your knowing! Beauty in your strength! Beauty in your mourning!

There is beauty in your smile. Beauty in your eyes! Beauty in the kinks of your crown! Beauty in the chocolate hews of your stride!

As long as you know and accept your truth, there opinions don’t matter. Trust in the raw nature of your beauty and embrace it.

Do not be ashamed of who you are or of your choices. Life is such an awesome gift and you were created for a beautiful purpose. Yes, some of your choices may eventually lead to lessons learned & that’s OK!! That’s the beauty of life!

To live & to love & to create & to express yourself SHAMELESSLY!!!

So just in case you forgot again, I’m here to remind you that You Are Beautiful! You Are Worthy! You are Bad-Ass! & You are an awesome mother!

Never again question your worth or allow your circumstances to dictate what you see in the mirror. Take control of your story. Create the beauty you know to be true of yourself in your heart.
With Unconditional Love,
Courageous Self

 

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#30Layers30Days – Day 17: “Apologies”

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What do you need to stop apologizing for?
Your personality?
Your perspective?
Your needs?
Your boundaries?
Your dreams?
The person you love?

I need to stop apologizing for the desire to change – to be the flawed woman who hides behind the woman you’ve grown comfortable with. For my changing perspective and my new definition of what happiness entails – for me!

For my desire to take risks that may lead to unfathomable joy on my end, but can potentially send you spiraling down stairs of sadness or regret.

For my new found confidence! For my wish to paint my smile boldly and add some shimmer to my bright, doe-like brown eyes.

I must eliminate this gut-like feeling to simmer down … It will not get in the way of my coming out extravaganza.

My transformation is imminent. So I guess it’s my responsibility to embrace my desires and brush any un-welcomed energy from my spirit…

My apologies if you can’t get down with the “New New”!

 

#30Layers30Days Self-Discovery Challenge 

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#30Layers30Days – Day 16: “Where You Are”

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What is the best part of being where you are in your life right now, at this very minute?   All worries aside.  What is making you happy? What is going right? What simple things are you grateful for?

Although there are a million things in my past I know could have gone differently, I am so grateful for the season that I am living right now. I have hit emotional rock bottom, and out of the ashes of my pain and depression, a new woman has been born.

I thank God for allowing me feel the heat surging from the flames in my life, because without the fire, I would have never discovered the depth of my strength.

I am thankful for the opportunity to know love in its truest form. To have the courage to fall in love with me, a woman who chooses to embrace her story rather than be ashamed of her past. I have to say that this is the best part of my life right now… Finally being able to love who I am sincerely, without disgrace or indignity.

 

#30Layers30Days Self-Discovery Challenge 

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I’ve Been Soul-Searching Throughout my Twenties

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Here is my latest on From A Wildflower

Throughout my twenties, I have truly undergone a striking amount of soul-searching. I have a little over two years left in my twenties, and I can only hope that as I cross over into another stage of adulthood, that I become a wiser, well-adjusted woman.

I have been in search of “who I am” since my pre-teen years, but especially throughout my twenties. I’ve often felt like I was a step behind the crowd: not fashion forward enough, not smart enough, not career-established enough, not spiritual enough. Time and time again I’ve been prone to setting an imaginary bar used to measure myself to those around me.

This year, I’ve come to the conclusion that all these years, I’ve been putting unnecessary pressure on myself. We as people are unique in so many ways, from the ways we’re raised, to our personalities, to how we maneuver through the inevitable tests and trials on our journeys towards living the God-intended life. Continue reading

Soulful Beauty of the Week – My Feature on All the Many Layers

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“The most challenging part of being a woman is being an emotional roller coaster at times. But in the same breath, I would say that I accept that I’m an emotional being & wouldn’t change that about myself. My life is my story written by the ink of my soul, and I read it all. The good and the bad, the beautiful moments and the ugly truths! Often people run from the pain, but I inhale it. It gives me power against my enemies, it feeds my strength. I am in tune with the highs and lows of my journey, which has contributed to the makings of who I am as a woman and as a human being.” 

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