#LeadingLadyProject – Week 4: Self-Esteem & Self-Worth

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Hello Loves –

So we are more than half way through the #LeadingLadyProject and I hope it has been as eye-opening for you as it has been for me.

This week our focus will be on Self-Esteem & Self -Worth. For years, low self-esteem was something that I battled with. It hasn’t been until this recent stage of my life that I have been able to encourage myself to feel confident in who I am and work on ways to counteract any negative energy that may try to take me back to feelings of worthlessness.

Nathaniel Brenden, an American psychotherapist defined self-esteem as the sum of self confidence (a feeling of personal capacity), and self-respect (a feeling of personal worth). He suggests that self-esteem exists as a consequence of the implicit judgment that every person has of their ability to face life’s challenges, to understand and solve problems, and their right to achieve happiness and be given respect.

For so long, I did not believe in my ability to face life’s challenges. I felt like I was the only one going through whatever I was going through and I didn’t know how to get out of my rut. I knew I wanted happiness, but felt like the only way to achieve it was to try to be someone that I wasn’t. I sacrificed the respect I had for myself as a woman and as a human being, chasing my skewed perception of what happiness entailed.

I was not confident in the unique creation of a woman God aspired me to be. I didn’t believe in my beauty. I questioned my choices and my lack of ability to speak up and remain loyal to my heart – my wants, my needs and my desires. I didn’t believe I was worthy of happiness living as the shy, awkward, mistake prone woman that I was.

So this week, I want to speak to you woman to woman. Words can’t describe how good it feels to love oneself; I feel like a new woman since falling in love with me. And, I want you to know and understand that you too are beautiful. Embrace every aspect of you that contributes to your uniqueness. Don’t be afraid to voice your opinion or to fight for your respect. If you want others to respect you, you must first learn to respect yourself. Learn to embrace who you are so that the opinions of others don’t stick.

Here are some key points to think about this week:

  1. Embrace your differences: It is key that we embrace what makes us different from the crowd. Our differences should be seen as a blessing. It contributes to our unique beauty as individuals. Whether a physical attribute or a character trait – love what makes you different.
  2. You are valuable: Recognize your value and the value in your gift. Use it to your advantage. You do have something to offer the world and you are worth something. Take the time to identify, nurture and share your gift with the world.
  3. Weekly Challenge: Do something to accentuate your individual style & beauty. Play with some make-up that accentuates your features & makes you feel confident. Wear a bold lip instead of carmex. Do something different with your hair. Wear bold prints, rock some high heals, put on a dress instead of sweats. Or rock those sweats with some heals. Do something to highlight your beauty and do it with CONFIDENCE!!!

Lets work on cultivating a strong sense of value ladies. Know that you are worthy of respect and have the right to be 100% authentically you at all times and in all relationships. Don’t hide your true self. Don’t simmer down because you don’t think you have what it takes to shine bright. You do have what it takes. All it requires is for you to have the courage to BE YOURSELF!! No matter your personality type – don’t be afraid to stand up for you!

Until Next Time

-S.

 

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