So, I’m reading this article with the hopes of gaining some tips and nuggets to help me on my personal journey to success right. Now, before I can even dive deep in search of some quality pearls of wisdom, before I can even get my fleshly pedicured toes wet, words like “make decisions quickly” and “be decisive and take action” knock me flat on my face (Excuse me whilst I continue to pick my mouth up off the ground).
Now if you know me closely, you would know that I am a very indecisive person. What some of you may not know is that I also tend to procrastinate from time to time. (I know, I know – Shocking right!) I’ll be the first to admit that it’s very difficult for me to come to a conclusive decision. Even when I make a choice, I’m all like “I should have chosen A instead of B”. I could be eating my sesame chicken & pork fried rice, and with each mouthful I’m thinking to myself, “I knew I should have gotten the chicken and broccoli w/ white rice”.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve just always been the one who goes back and forth on her choices, taking hours to decide if she want some parmesan cheese grated atop her freshly chopped Olive Garden salad…smh!
Whether it relates to something as small as deciding what I want off of a restaurant menu, or a life changing decision – it takes me FOR-EVER to decide.
So naturally, when I read words like decide and quickly paired together, my first response is “Uh oh – I guess this indecisiveness mess gotta’ go huh”
It is especially difficult for me to decide and act on something when I fear what the outcome might be.
What if I get hurt? What if I fail? What if it doesn’t turn out the way I planned it out in my head? What if people laugh? What if I’m not good enough? What if I’m making the wrong choice?
I need to get out of the habit of marinating my thoughts in uncertainty and just do. Now, I’m not saying to make decisions without weighing your options and putting some thought into your actions. We must be wise and make well-informed decisions. But, it is so important that we don’t make a habit of scavenging through our minds in search of absolute certainty. The reality is we won’t always know what the outcome of our decisions will be, and sometimes we may indeed get hurt. All we can do is pray for guidance, trust the process and believe in the potential of our choices.
Living a fulfilled and wholehearted life where we experience growth and success will often require us to believe without seeing. It will require one to have faith in their abilities and in their God; having confidence in oneself and the budding possibilities at ones disposal.
If things don’t turn out the way you planned, so what! You might fall, you might get hurt, you might make a complete wreck of things, but the most important fact to note is this – At least you tried! And look at the brighter side of things; more than likely, you gained a valuable lesson and you’re a wiser person because of it.
Let’s stop hiding behind our fears and focusing on all the bad that could happen. Instead, let’s shift our focus on the good that could come of our choices, and park our vision in that space. Lean into the risk! Use the knowledge you’ve gained from past experiences in combination with your ideas and unique zeal, and go after what you believe in – no longer afraid of falling or getting your heal caught in the cracks.
You know my motto, be the woman that you dream up on the inside and be her on purpose!
Until Next Time Loves
image source: Time Out Magazine