Be who you are, Not who you think you should be

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“Our job in this life is not to shape ourselves into some ideal we imagine we ought to be, but to find out who we already are and become it.” – Steven Pressfield

Often times, we become distracted by the erroneous expectations of others, and even of ourselves. We concoct this image in our minds of what success entails, losing sight of our purpose and what brings us genuine fulfillment in life. Confined by monetary gain, hollow titles and accolades, our potential to shine in our calling is placed on hold; waiting to be called out into the unlimited possibilities that the universe has to offer.

Growing up, I always wondered what my purpose was in life. I equated success with getting high grades in school, earning a college degree, and obtaining a high paying job doing something I was good at (oh, and helping other people in the process was a plus).

Discovering what my ultimate “purpose” was had always been difficult for me to figure out.  I knew I enjoyed writing, but never thought I could ever make a successful career out of it. In my eyes, my writing wasn’t good enough and I just didn’t have the personality required of one who could “make it to the major leagues”. I needed to be articulate, outgoing and likable; but in reality, I get nervous when speaking in front of an audience, I prefer to keep to myself and my observant nature causes me to appear “stuck-up” to those who don’t know me (which is far from the truth).

At this current stage of my life, I’ve learned so much about what purpose is. (Now this is just my opinion) I believe purpose encompasses your gifts, talents and life experiences; a sum total of wisdom and knowledge gained over the years and applied to your unique abilities. Purpose requires persistence, drive and dedication; the ability to listen to your heart and understand the connection between ones unique self and ones calling.  Because one never stops learning, one’s purpose is ever-evolving. Purpose buds and blossoms as you absorb life’s joys and challenges into the roots of your existence.

In order to exercise ones purpose in life, we must no longer rely on others to dictate or validate what we should do or how we should do it. Societal norms should not determine how you live your life. With bold confidence in your step and the breath of Gods’ spirit sprinting through your veins, you have the potential to be GREAT!

Be creative! Stand out from the crowd! Take the time to get to know who you are. Silence out the noise of the world so that you can hear your own voice, so that you can hear your own wants and desires. Free yourself from the expectation to become someone you’re not, all in an attempt to please everyone but yourself.

What do you enjoy doing? What has your journey taught you that you can now teach to others? How can you challenge the limits of your comfort zone, while encouraging growth in the process? How can you use your gifts to create life & laughter?  A 9-5 is great for some, but are you content? Are you excited to wake up in the morning and go to work? Does your work bring you indescribable gratification & fulfillment? If not, it’s time for some self-reflection;  to have an in depth conversation with your soul.

Give yourself permission to soar past your doubts and into the unlimited possibilities of your future. The world is waiting!

Until next time loves 🙂


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